Are you waiting for a nudge?
Are you waiting for someone to indicate to you that now, right now...it is your turn? Sounds unlikely, yet I can tell you, it is more common than you might think. People thinking that there has to be a certain sequence of events before they can do **insert activity here**. Is this true? Maybe?
This whole idea of "waiting your turn" starts way back. If you didn't experience that concept at home, you most certainly learned it as soon as you went to some sort of "school" for the first time, and it made sense for sure. Can you imagine a bunch of small humans running around doing what they please, jumping over each other to be 'first" all the time? Chaos. Utter chaos. I'm guessing that it was a "conditioning of necessity".
If you are reading this, I am guessing that you aren't in JK anymore? Chances are, you are a fully functioning adult; maybe with a job, a partner, possibly children, pets etc. And, you have taken the whole "wait your turn" philosophy into your adult life. I hear it all the time. Everywhere. Reasons why people come last on their list of priorities, worn as if it is some sort of medal, yet, there is also a sense of loss. What do I mean? Loss of oneself. In the midst of responsibilities and life, somewhere along the way, they got lost. To the point of having to get reacquainted with themselves. I'm waiting until....I will do something nice for myself when...as if there will be a magic moment "when" your time has come, "your turn". As if someone else is responsible for nudging us to let us know when it is "our turn".
I have some news that you may not want to hear here. It is highly unlikely that someone is going to walk up to you and say hey "insert your name here" its your turn now. You're up next.
Taking your turn, actually making it to the top of your "to do" list is NOT selfish. It is called self care and like the popular analogy of putting your own oxygen mask on before someone else's, you first, means that you are good to go.
It is ensuring that you will be able to show up as your best when the time comes.
Still not convinced? Then maybe ask yourself this question "what am I getting out of putting myself on the backburner"? I know, yikes. Maybe just wonder for a moment....
