Seems like a weird enough question, doesn't it? Why would you want to act like a toddler?
Not too long ago, I had a conversation with a really smart person who recently immigrated to Canada. They were sharing with me some of the learning that they had had in their time here so far. So much that I take for granted. I'm talking about the basic things we understand that are literally foreign to someone who is getting to know the ropes.
They shared with me that they often felt like a toddler. I think what they were trying to express was that when they were faced with something new, they had to regress to the mindset of a toddler to learn it. Their description of a toddler, however, was less than flattering and left me with a chance to reframe not only the behaviour of a toddler but also, how this person was looking at learning again.
"Stupid and clumsy". Yikes. Not exactly complimentary. They proceeded to tell me a story of a recent road trip they took. When it was time to find a parking spot, they didn't know whether they could park in front of someone's home or not. They had to phone a friend they had met in Canada to ask the question. They felt stupid.
I suggested that not asking the question and getting a parking ticket would have been "stupid". Asking the question was smart. Lightbulb on.
We continued the conversation to help them reframe the idea that being a "toddler" was a bad thing, reminding them that: every expert, no exception, started out as a beginner.
I respectfully suggested that many of the toddlers I've met have a few qualities in common: They are relentlessly curious...always asking why. They are playful and don't take things too seriously...unless of course, it's the play itself. And, they remain present in whatever they're doing. They don't seem to get too concerned about what's next on the agenda. They just ARE.
I'm pretty sure there was a shift in there somewhere...
So how might this be useful for you? My guess is that we've all come up against being new at something. Also, I'm thinking that there may be things you are facing right now where the mindset of a toddler could provide a different perspective?
So let's get to it...
Are you willing to try this out?
Your challenge for the next week...
Pick a situation where you have been feeling unsure or need to learn something new. Keep it simple. Then do the following:
Ask yourself - what if I was more curious about this? Keeping in mind here that there are no "stupid" questions.
Where could I see the playful side of this? What are you taking too seriously? Lighten up!
What if I stayed present - here and now? Be in the moment.
Notice how being curious, playful and present can open up options. You may be surprised.
If you're ready to get intentional about how you're showing up, Contact me for a chat. It's always good to hear from you!
Stay safe and well.
Warmly,
Ann