Low hanging fruit. You know, the stuff right in front of you, or sometimes just off to the side. No stool or ladder required to get it.
It's there.
When you're not prepared for a situation it may be difficult to find, or it's often just out of reach.
Have you ever been in a conversation where you are choosing your words carefully? We've all been in conversations like that, and suffice it to say that having to choose your words suggests that things aren't going very smoothly. What about those situations where you find yourself blurting something out that you didn't intend to? I'm thinking that we've had those situations as well. You know, the ones where you ask yourself: Did I just say that out loud? Yikes.
What's the difference between people who are able to show up and get what they want out of a conversation or situation and those who end up with their foot in their mouth?
Preparation. Intention.
When you head into a situation prepared and in the right state, you're less likely to find yourself reaching for words or blurting out something that you can't take back. Rather, you just may find yourself noticing that things are going more smoothly. No trying to choose the next word.
How do you do this?
So let's get to it...
Are you willing to try this out?
Your challenge for the next week...
Pick one conversation that you would like to have go well. It could be getting someone to agree on dinner plans. Whatever comes up for you. Keep it simple. Then do the following:
Think about the conversation you're going to have.
Then take some time to sit down and imagine that the conversation has gone well. Picture where you are and when it is. How do you know it has gone well?
Pay attention to the behaviours you did that helped the conversation go well.
Notice how the other person is responding to you in this situation. What tells you that it's going well?
Now plan to have the conversation and notice how it goes.
When you're done, take some time to notice what difference it made to take some time to prepare.
If you're ready to get intentional about how you're showing up, Contact me for a chat. It's always good to hear from you!
Stay safe and well.
Warmly,
Ann