This is the second of a multi-part blog series on helping you recognize what might be keeping you stuck and small steps to get you moving forward again.
Sometimes all it takes is one little nudge to get you back on track.
The focus for this blogpost is the role that CLARITY plays in getting you unstuck.
Just imagine this for a second: You jump in a Taxi and the driver asks, “Where do you want to go?” You reply, “Don’t take me to the airport.” It sounds silly, but people tend to be quick to tell you about where they don’t want to go/what they don't want rather than taking the time to figure out where they DO want to go! This can definitely keep you stuck and spinning your wheels.
Clarity. Knowing where you are. Knowing where you’re going. For many this is not the case. They're on cruise control, going with the flow and getting what they get. All okay until it’s not. Clarity puts the you are here in your navigational app. The starting point. It's from here that you can decide where there is. The next step, your destination. Whether it’s your career, health, relationships or whatever it is that's keeping you stuck, until you know where you are, where you’re going will be murky.
Why is this step critical to getting unstuck? If you don’t know where you currently are, then you may find that you are continually returning to situations again and again. Chasing your tail so to speak.
One thing I've noticed that seems to be true, is that when we are clear about what we want, it is also unusual to be stuck. Why, you might be wondering? As I mentioned above…when you know what you want it’s like putting a destination into your navigational app. You're able to see off into the distance and this, in and of itself, gives your brain something to do. Once you know what you want, your brain will look around for opportunities to make it happen. It’s built that way.
Why do so many people skip this step - the whole getting clear thing? Because when you're at a standstill, you naturally want movement. It feels good. This is why we jump the gun and leave a job because the grass is greener over there...until it isn't. You get the picture? If you're going to run, run towards something you want, not away from something you don't want. Take the time to get CLEAR.
So let's get to it....
Are you willing to try this out? If so...
Your challenge for the next week or so…
Start small. The next time you’re feeling stuck or or overwhelmed - take some time to get clear on something you want. Make it something as simple as getting a cup of coffee. Focus on the steps you will take to get it. Will you be making it for yourself or will you be going out to get it? What will it will smell like, what will the temperature be, the taste as the first sip passes your lips? Get really clear and then go do it. Then repeat with something else, equally small, maybe booking a reservation for dinner. It's by practicing with small things that you can build this muscle and head towards things that you want. It's a practice, focusing on what you want versus what you don't want. With time and repetition, you will start to feel a difference. Promise.
May you find a nugget or two as you come along on this journey with me.
Up next? The role that fear has in keeping you stuck.
If you're ready to get unstuck and shift your mindset please Contact me for a zero obligation chat. It's always good to hear from you!
Stay safe and well.
Warmly,
Ann