…I'm losing my sh*t a little...
You'd think that someone who makes their living as a "Confidence" Coach would never feel nervous.
Well... you'd be wrong! I am human after all...
In my last blog I talked about saying yes and not avoiding opportunities because of fear. I also mentioned that I'm practicing saying yes and then figuring it out...What the heck was I thinking??!!
I have an event coming up on the weekend and the feeling I'm getting in my chest and stomach is REAL! And...I know despite those feelings, I'm going to be fine. Although it certainly doesn't feel that way right now!
How does it feel right now? Freaking Scary!
How about you? Have you ever said yes to something and then had all the very REAL feelings that may go with it? For me it's my chest and stomach, maybe for you, it's somewhere else?
I want to let you know that this is completely normal and it doesn't go away...EVER. That's not to say that you don't learn ways to manage it and lessen some of the physical sensations and mental chatter, it just becomes a part of the process. The process you're gonna have to become friends with if living a life that's fulfilling and exciting matters to you.
For you? Maybe it's not about being in front of an audience and I'm guessing that something came to mind where you too get the wiggly stomach and chest. Whatever the case may be, it's about not settling for less because your amygdala wants to run the show. There ARE things we can do to manage this and do the things we want to do.
Are you ready?
Let’s get to it…
Your challenge…
You said yes...bravo! Now what? How do you manage all of those very REAL sensations that are going to come up for you?
Acknowledge.
Trying to run away from how you're feeling pretty much works NEVER. Acknowledge how you're feeling. Really notice where in your body any sensations may be coming up.
Identify.
Once you've acknowledged how you're feeling, in my case, I call it a "wiggly" stomach and chest. - label it. Maybe it's nervous. Take a few minutes now to do this.
Question.
I like to ask myself, based on these physical sensations, what else could this be? Let yourself get quiet and wait. When I'm nervous the sensations are almost exactly like the sensations I get when I'm excited.
Take the answer you get from the question above and ask yourself "What if I was xxx instead"? In my case, what if I was excited instead of nervous?
Notice.
What happens when you change what the physical sensations mean? All of a sudden you have another option.
Trust yourself, you're smarter, more prepared, and ready than you think!
I'm a few steps ahead of you, shining some light on the breadcrumb trail for you... Contact me
Warmly,
Ann
I said yes…and now…