Apparently the only things in life that are certain are: death and taxes. As far as I know, that's proved to be true.
Certainty is one of those things that exists in the rear view mirror. You can do a "pros and cons" list, do some research, ask around...do all those things but when it comes to pulling the trigger, you have to take a chance. You have to trust that you've done the work...you've looked at all the options, and now you're ready to go.
This takes a certain kind of courage. And chances are, you do this all of the time and don't give it a second thought. You're constantly making in the moment decisions without any concern for certainty. The wish for certainty usually comes up when the stakes are perceived as being higher. Maybe there's no do-over. That's when you really want to be sure that you know what you're doing. That the decision you're making is the" right" one.
Seeking certainty, when in fact, the right decision for you is going to be the one that feels right for you. You can take in the opinions of others or do an extensive analysis and at the end of the day, you have to decide. This is the right decision. Now is the right time.
What causes this uncertainty? In addition to the perception of high stakes, no do-over situations, in my experience is usually one of two things. You have so many options that you're overwhelmed with the possibilities so it's hard to feel like you're making the the right decision. Or, the completely opposite situation where you feel you have no options and so you're stuck. A lack of certainty.
I want to propose that maybe instead of looking for certainty, you look for clarity.
In my mind, clarity is a superpower. It can pull you forward, encourage you to take that first step and then it continues to pull you forward. With each step you take, it allows you to alter your path according to the information that you're getting.
When you're clear about what you want, you're less likely to get stuck in uncertainty because the clarity of your goal is gonna help you to make decisions and do things without a second thought.
If you're stuck in uncertainty right now, step back for a moment and ask yourself:
What do I want?
What's my goal here?
Allow this information to drive your first step.
Are you ready?
Let's get to it...
Your challenge...
Are you looking for certainty right now? Look for clarity instead...
Ask yourself:
What do I want right now?
Keep it simple. Maybe you're looking for a creative idea.
Who do I know that could help me with this?
Two heads are always better than one!
What do I notice about myself when I have clarity?
Clarity puts fuel in your tank.
When you're clear, you're less likely to hesitate or wait to take action. It's like putting fuel in your tank. It also helps you build your "action taking" muscles.
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Warmly,
Ann
Are you looking for certainty? Try clarity instead…