Probably sometimes.
Stinking thinking is when you let the voices in your head take over and tell you lies, or maybe things that were once true, but certainly aren't now. Not a formal definition but you get the picture. Those voices are often driven by shame, embarrassment or the stories that you've told yourself for so long that they feel like the truth. All stuff that we typically keep to ourselves and that's the problem...keeping it to yourself.
These are the very things that isolate you, make you think that "you're the only one" which isn't true at all.That's what shame, embarrassment and lies do...they keep you quiet. They can erode your sense of worthiness, whether it's the promotion you want, the relationship, the lifestyle...all of those things.
Because of our propensity to lean towards the negative, those voices can drown out all of the other truths that exist that are empowering and affirming.
It took me years, and I mean years, to finally grab the bull by the horns and sort my own shit out. Do I wish I'd done it sooner? Maybe, but I believe everything happens at exactly the right time.
Is now the right time for you?
A lot of my clients are stinking thinkers too. I see you. The thing is...once you give your stinking thinking a voice, you'll be able to hear that it's a liar. Perspective. The things you've been telling yourself are what keep you small. They hold you hostage.
Is 2025 the year to call them out?
I see you hanging out, thinking about reaching out and waiting. I get it. Like I said...it took me years to feel safe enough to find someone to work on my shit with. I get you. What I also learned is that waiting robs you of your potential and I don't want you to make the same mistake I did. You have all the skills, strengths and capabilities you need to be doing the things you want to do. That's a given.
The problem?
Probably 98% of the time, the problem is, the story you've telling yourself has become the truth for you and you can't see your potential. Chances are good that these stories have lead you to believe that "this is as good as it gets". It's not. There are other possibilities for you. I promise you. You may not be able to see your potential...but I can.
We're very close to the end of 2024. As you reflect on this year, which is a really good thing to do, I want you to notice:
How are you holding yourself back?
What behaviours are you doing, or not doing, that are stopping you from achieving the things you want to achieve?
Be brutally honest with yourself.
I want you to know I'm here and waiting for you with an open heart. Yeah, I can be provocative and feisty and I'm also really compassionate and kind...always keeping your best interests at heart. I don't want you to miss out on all the possibilities there are for you because you're still believing that story.
As I close off for the year, I want to take a moment now to acknowledge you. Many of you have been reading this blog for years. Thank you for being here for the ride.
I invite you to reach out. Yeah, let's chat. It's been a minute. I'd love to hear from you.
Wishing you all the best as you celebrate Kwanzaa, Hanukkah, Christmas, or simply enjoy the love and joy of this time of year.
Warmly,
Ann
Are you a ‘stinking thinker’? Probably sometimes…