Everything is temporary......
If you're going through something right now, and it's really crappy...you can trust that eventually you're going to return to your baseline.
Conversely, if you're riding a high and things are amazing, that too will eventually settle down and you'll again return to your baseline.
It's what we do.
The interesting question might be, what's your baseline and why does it matter?
When I'm referring to baseline, I'm talking about your mindset. How you operate pretty much all of the time, how happy you are, how you view your world on a regular Tuesday afternoon. If that's in good shape...then, as you were...if not?
That's where the work begins. Shifting your mindset, because your mindset is the lens that filters your world...creates the reality you experience.
What's your lens like?
There's a term "rose-coloured glasses" for a reason. I'm sure you've met people like that. Everything's always great...unrealistic...but you understand what kind of lens they have.
And...you've probably met people where everything's doom and gloom. They're always looking for the cloud. Equally unrealistic but also a lens nonetheless.
Let's talk from the perspective of optimism and resilience, which are very much linked to your mindset.
To be clear, being optimistic has nothing to do with "rose coloured" glasses. It's the ability to recognize, especially when things aren't going great, that it will get better, that you have everything you need to ensure that that happens.
Why does this matter? When shit hits the fan, or when that high lowers, where do you land? What's your baseline?
Mindset shifts. That's what it takes to reframe how you see the world. To alter that lens so that it's not always looking for doom and gloom.
Optimism creates resilience...resilient people are optimistic. Coincidence?
Are you ready?
Let's get to it...
Your challenge...
What IS your baseline...the place you return to after the crap dissipates or the high is done?
Rose coloured glasses?
Doom and gloom?
Somewhere in-between?
Not happy with your baseline?
Here are some small mindset hacks to help you up your game:
Shift your language.
If you find yourself using language like: I never, it always, I can't, it's them...
Start noticing.
Ask yourself: Is this really true?
Reframe how you look at things.
If you tend to look at challenges from the lens of "I can't" ...
Start noticing.
Instead of saying "I can't" add "yet" to the end of that statement.
Ask for feedback.
If you truly want to change your baseline mindset...
Enlist some truth tellers to give you feedback.
Be open and receptive.
Shifting your mindset to a more optimistic one is the key to building your resilience. This doesn't mean that "bad" things don't happen...it means that you're able to move through them more quickly. You return to your "baseline" and from that perspective you're able to decide your next best move.
You CAN do it.
Need some help figuring it out? Contact me and let's set up your FREE chemistry call.
Cheers,
Ann
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