Remember to take a look back...
So you're over the hump? You got the job, ended the relationship, bought the house or, maybe, you finally had the courage to move on. Before you forget about it, take some time to reflect. It's so easy to move forward and quickly lose the opportunity to gain some useful information about yourself.
As you take some time to reflect, here are some things to notice about yourself that you may find useful:
What behaviours did you do that lead you to turn the corner?
Take some time to really notice from the beginning of the situation, until the moment that you made the decision to do something about it: How were you behaving?
What skills, strengths, or capabilities did you draw on to reach this point?
Seeing other people's skills and strengths is quite easy; they're as plain as day to you. It's easy to miss your own, and that's why this self-reflection exercise is useful. Really be honest with yourself.
Notice what actions you took.
They say that nothing changes, if nothing changes, in this case...you! So notice, what did you do that moved the needle forward here? It might have been something subtle, or it could have been one of those AHA moments that propelled you forward. Find out.
What did you believe about yourself or maybe the situation itself, that drove you to do those actions?
Maybe not obvious (and this is why you're doing this reflection!). Check in here. Your beliefs are there to limit you. They tend to set boundaries for what you’re open to, and, when they shift, they can allow something different in. What happened here?
Who were you being when you did this?
This isn't a woo woo question! Maybe you were being your teenaged self, the one who took risks and didn't worry about what others thought. Or, maybe you were reminded of a previous time in your life when you took a leap, or made a big decision. Whatever comes to mind here, it's not uncommon to lose track of who you can be.
Okay. Now that you've reflected on this event that happened. What's different when you think about it? Allow something to float into your mind.
Let's get to it...
Your challenge for the next week...
When you're faced with a situation where you feel like you're ready to finally "turn the corner":
Check in with how you're currently behaving. What could you be doing differently?
Remember that you have a plethora of skills, strengths and capabilities. Find at least one to tap into.
Take action. Enough said here.
What do you believe is possible for you in this situation?
How are you going to be? Reacquaint yourself with the version of yourself that maybe you've lost track of...they're still there!
Are you ready to turn the corner? Contact me You have all of the skills, strengths and capabilities you need. Let’s work together and reconnect you with them!
Stay safe and well.
Cheers,
Ann
When you turn the corner…remember to take a look back.