Letting go. What does that have to do with growing your confidence or any other skill for that matter?
Plenty!
Often it's the things you're hanging on to that are preventing you from making changes or developing those skills you want.
What kinds of things?
Judgement.
Worrying about what others may be thinking about you and what you're up to? Putting too much importance on what others think is natural, as humans we like our tribe and we want to stay connected to them. It's part of our DNA.
Here's a newsflash... other people are too busy worrying about their own stuff! In fact, if you explore you may find that the judgement that's coming from YOU is what may be stopping you from growing your confidence. Let that sh*t go!
Expectations.
Maybe it's an expectation you have of yourself? "You have to get it right! What's taking so long? You should have this figured out already.' It's easy to cut others some slack, however, when it comes to yourself...often, the bar gets set in a different place, and it's usually higher. It's okay for others to mess up and take their time acquiring new skills but not you. Let go of those unreasonable expectations...
Beliefs.
This is a loaded one for sure. Beliefs. They create boundaries and direct your focus. This tends to narrow it, including some information and excluding other information and perspectives that are out there. It's more than likely that you have some beliefs that you're hanging on to that aren't actually yours. Your entire life you've been influenced by others, and that's pretty normal. Maybe some of those beliefs are stopping you from growing, or aren't resonating for you anymore. Notice. What belief are you hanging onto that's no longer useful for this phase of your life? Let it go...
Impatience.
Impatience. Needing to rush through and be the expert rather than being kind and taking the time it needs to build that skill. In a hurry to reach the finish line when there never really is a finish line.
Ready to explore?
Let’s get to it…
Your challenge…
Imagine a skill that you want to grow right now, maybe it's confidence, maybe it's something else entirely. Just call something to mind.
Judgement.
Let's talk about self-judgement. Most people are harder on themselves than anyone else ever would be. Next time you're coming down on yourself for not being as far along as you think you should be, try this: Imagine that you have a really good friend going through the same situation. What would you say to them?
Expectations.
Are the expectations you're putting on yourself realistic? Are they yours or are you trying to impress someone else? Remember that there's no such thing as perfection and pretending that there is, is futile and self-destructive. Besides, no one else is expecting it from you.
Beliefs.
Check in and notice. Is there a particular belief that seems to be coming between you and your growth? Dig deep. Is it yours? Even if it is yours...beliefs don't have to be carved in stone, you're growing and learning all of the time. When a belief becomes a roadblock maybe it's time to let it go.
Impatience.
When you're patient with yourself you may find that you become more relaxed and in fact, you start to progress on your skill building more easily.
Whatever pops up for you. Ask yourself. What can I choose to let go of today? By letting go of this thing, what are you doing for yourself? What are you creating space for? Take some time right now to let something bubble to the surface for you.
I'm a few steps ahead of you, shining some light on the breadcrumb trail for you... Contact me Let's play a bit in the muck!
Warmly,
Ann
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Loosen your grip!! It’s time to let go of that sh*t!