"They" say that nothing changes, if nothing changes...
This is mostly true. If you continue to do what you've always done, you'll probably get what you've always gotten. Taking into consideration that the world is going to change too and that will influence things ...but mostly you're in charge.
You have far more control over how things go than you think.
Are you continuing to do the same thing and expecting a different result? It sounds ludicrous when you say it out loud.
Of course, your world is going to change...people are going to come and go, careers are going to change, relationships... all of this and more.
What are you expecting to change that hasn't changed?
If you look at your life right now, exactly as it is, ask yourself "What are the consistent behaviours and habits I've been doing up until now that have led me here?"
After reflecting on this...answer the question: "If I continue to do what I'm doing now, am I going to be happy with how things are a few years from now?"
Let the answers bubble up, or it may require that you give it some more thought. Go for a walk. Journal. Take some time to deeply explore the idea that if you continue on the path you're on, are you going to be satisfied three years down the road?
I recently asked myself this question and surprisingly, the answer was yes, in three years with a few little tweaks I will be satisfied if I continue down the path I'm on.
It surprised me because a few years ago when I asked myself that question, I had a very different response. A response that led me to do some deep work. Asking myself some very uncomfortable questions and then, taking action to change what the next few years would look like.
Uncomfortable, necessary and, ultimately...worth it.
How about you? When you ask yourself that question, what's the answer? Happy with the trajectory you're on?
If you're not satisfied, or you look forward and think "Oh sh*t" ...then now's the time to start making small changes.
Small. They don't have to be big changes. It's more about the small things you do daily. These tweaks will change your life exponentially over time. Similar to how you got to where you are now…it took years of doing or, not doing things to end up where you are now.
Whether it's your health, your career, your relationships...any of those things. They are an accumulation over time of the choices you've made or didn’t make, mostly small and they have a sneaky way of catching up with you.
Making a change requires a mindset shift. If your head goes to "it's always been this way, it'll always be this way" - these are classic mindset traits that are keeping you stuck where you are.
That's where it starts, making a conscious choice to say that you want things to be different down the road.
Now what?
Are you ready?
Let's get to it...
Your challenge...
Nothing changes overnight. Things change over time...and you've got time.
For this week and as we head into the classic time of change, the "New Year", start to think of one little thing, one area of your life where you would like to see a change.
Is it your career? Your physical health? Your relationships? Pick one you'd like to envision being different a few years down the road.
Start to explore.
What's one little thing you're doing right now that if you tweak it slightly, things will look different for you in three years?
Don't overcomplicate it.
For example: Let's take your physical health.
It could mean looking at how you start your day and deciding that you're going to get up 10 minutes earlier and stretch. What would your life look like in three years if you did this one little thing?
What would be different?
Doing something bit by bit...that's sustainable.That's how you change that thing that you've decided you want to change. One small step at a time.
If you need help shifting that mindset of yours Contact me I may not have the answers but I do have questions for you that may help direct you to where you need to go.
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Cheers,
Ann
Nothing changes…if nothing changes.