Sorry, not sorry...

What's that quote in Elton John's song - Sorry seems to be the hardest word? 

Not if you're Canadian!  Joking aside, constantly apologizing - especially when you've done nothing to apologize for - may be hurting your perceived confidence and competence. Sorry, not sorry...

If this sounds like you, don't despair. By the end of this blog, even if you try just one thing suggested here, you're going to notice a change.

First, let's dig into how saying sorry all of the time can affect your perceived competence and affect your confidence. 

• When you apologize all of the time: 

  • You may be viewed as someone who’s constantly making mistakes, which can undermine your credibility.

• When you apologize unnecessarily:

  • You may be perceived as someone who's overly concerned with pleasing others.

• Over-apologizing can also make you seem uncertain:

  • You may seem like you're unsure of your decisions.

• It suggests that you're at fault:

  • Apologizing for something automatically puts you in a position of blame.*

* Apologizing for something automatically puts you in a position of blame!

Whoa, hold on.

Imagine this scenario: You're in a meeting and one of the key contributors is 10 minutes late. They walk into the room and:

• Start apologizing profusely, explaining what may have caused their lateness, etc. 

• OR...

• They walk into the room and sincerely say - thank you for your patience. Sit down and join the meeting.

Which one do you think, appears to be more confident and less disruptive?

There's a whole thing that happens when someone says sorry.  The onus goes to others to excuse them, to make them feel better for whatever they may be apologizing for. This takes up time  AND, for the person apologizing? There's a laying of blame on you! Even if it's not expressly stated. It's unconsciously felt by those around you.  Definitely not good for your perceived competence.

However, when the person who's running late, thanks the group for their patience and takes their seat, the whole blame situation is diffused and they appear to be more confident and competent and definitely, less disruptive.

Mic drop!

One small change can make a world of difference.

Are you ready?

Let’s get to it…

Your challenge…


If you find you say sorry more than you'd like to, here are some tips:

• Always take a breath when you notice you're about to say sorry.

  • This gives you a moment to decide whether or not saying sorry is necessary for the situation you're in.

• If you determine that there may be a better option than saying sorry, here are some examples of what you might say instead.

  • If you're running late for an appointment, a meeting, etc.  Instead of saying sorry, try saying - Thank you for your patience.

  • If you can't (or don't want to) attend an event, instead of saying sorry, try saying - Thank you for your understanding.

• These tips can be game-changing and empowering.

When you adopt this strategy, there are two things that are going to happen:

• You're going to sound more confident and,

• with time and practice, you're going to FEEL more confident!

Just by replacing one word!

Give it a try, let me know how it goes!

If you're ready to show up with more confidence  Contact me  You have all of the skills, strengths, and capabilities you need. Let’s work together and reconnect you with them!

Warmly,
Ann

Sorry…not sorry.

It's never as bad as you think it's going to be...

It's never as bad as you think it's going to be. 

I want to remind you that, you've:

• Done new things before.

  • and the new thing became the old thing

• Done difficult things before

  • and the discomfort dissipated

• Failed before

  • and that became your victory story

• Taken a risk before

  • and realized that it was so worth it

AND...none of it, killed you. Despite what you may have told yourself or what others may have told you, you survived! Bravo!

In fact, it probably became a part of your "story".  The tougher experiences usually do. That's what makes them a story.  No one tells you about the easy time they had doing something.  People love drama, blood, and guts. The thing is, you're going to have to skin your knees a bit every now and then if you want to grow. Including growing your confidence.

I want you to think back to one of those specific experiences now. Just one time when you decided to do something new.

Either think it through or journal about it. Regardless, I want you to go all the way back and notice what was the very first step you took. Then go back just a little further, and notice what it took you to get going.

The first step always looks harder than it is...until you take it...


Are you ready?

Let’s get to it…

Your challenge…

Pick something that you know deep down you really want to have/do or be.

Then maybe start by:

• Choosing to say yes to that thing that you want to pursue.

  • Before you feel ready.

• Break it down.

  • Bite-sized pieces make new things easier to navigate.

• Ask for help.

  • There are so many people who want you to succeed! Get a mentor or a coach!

• Take a step.

  • I know. I say this all of the time and I wouldn't keep saying it if it didn't work!!

Remember that confident people feel all of the fear of discomfort, failure, and risk that you do. They've learned to accept these feelings and take action despite them.  It's a practice. 

Because...it's never as bad as you think it's going to be. I promise you. 

If you're ready to take your first step Contact me  You have all of the skills, strengths, and capabilities you need. Let’s work together and reconnect you with them!

Warmly,
Ann

It’s never as bad as you think it’s going to be…

Are you living with a liar?

Yep...and probably more than one!

Before you go look at your partner, parent, child, or dog...I want you to look at yourself.

There's more than likely a whole crew hanging out with you in your head.  The voices that pop up, especially when you're on the cusp of something really good. If you're listening closely, they may not even be yours...but that's not the point at the moment. The point? The voices may have a particular sound and seem very reasonable. That's the catch...even if they seem reasonable, you need to recognize what's driving them.

Fear.

I know. It's a theme. It does not go away, and you can learn how to recognize and manage it to your advantage.

You see, fear has a tendency to:

• Maximize what can go wrong. The risks. Even if the risk is just being new at something.

• And, because you're so busy focusing on the risks, fear naturally minimizes the benefits or opportunities of this thing that you want to do.

How do you flip this? How do you learn to maximize the benefits and minimize the risks when that's the natural default of that brain of yours?

• It's a practice for sure. You need to notice that it's happening. It always starts in your body, but you've been trained to listen to your head. Regardless, notice the signal that comes up and sends you to your negative default. That's step one.

• Start to flip it by interrupting the thought. Get up. Move around. Place your attention elsewhere for a few minutes.

• Then ask yourself, what are the possible opportunities here?

Because of your cognitive bias - when you believe something, your brain will find evidence to support it.  This is good news!  This means that you actually have more control than you think you do.  Once you decide that you're going to find the upside of that change or whatever is causing you to feel fear, your brain will look for the upside too. This will settle down the fear. 

It's hard to feel fear when you're finding all the benefits of that thing that you want to do. 

Cool, right?! So now what?

Are you ready?

Let’s get to it…

Your challenge…


When fear shows up (which it will if you're living your life)...

Reflect/Notice:

• Oh, there's that biology of mine kicking in. There's the niggling in my chest/stomach (or wherever you feel your fear).

• Be with it for a moment and show yourself some compassion.  It's your body trying to take care of you.

Reframe:

• What if your fear is a gateway? A sign that something really exciting is ahead for you.

• What opportunity is just beyond that feeling you're experiencing?

Challenge your cognitive bias:

• Your brain's gonna go to the risks and pitfalls first. 

• Interrupt them. Flip your thoughts to the benefits of this change you want to make.

Then...

• With this in mind. Make a choice. Are you going to let the fear stop you or spark you?

Embarrassment lasts a moment, regrets last a lifetime. Petteri Tarkkonen

If you're ready to confidently take your first step Contact me  You have all of the skills, strengths, and capabilities you need. Let’s work together and reconnect you with them!

Warmly,
Ann

Are you living with a liar?

Ready. Set. Go! Who you kidding...

So you've decided you're going to do"it". Whatever it is you keep saying that you're going to do.

Then, this happens: the hesitation and the excuses, all very reasonable sounding for sure. You're going to do that thing you've been wanting to do forever and suddenly you decide that:

• You need just one more opinion.

• You need the guarantee of certainty you're looking for.

• You're gonna take just one more course because then you'll be ready for real this time.

• The weather gets better, you lose a couple of pounds ...Blah. Blah. Blah.

It's just like a plan. Right? Hmmm.

Here's the truth of the matter, you're never going to feel completely ready. These are just distractions that are delaying you from doing the thing you say you want to do.

Just so you know:

• The number one opinion that matters... is yours.

• Certainty doesn't exist (except paying taxes and yes, you will eventually die).

• One more course will just open up one more excuse.

• Whatever your...blah blah blah is...another delay tactic

The idea that there's a perfect time out there just isn't true. You're never going to feel confident enough, competent enough, prepared enough...whatever your "enough" is. 


So how do you go about getting started?

Are you ready?

Let’s get to it…

Your challenge…


Imagine that you took a step towards your thing today. Just one.

Now take a deep breath and exhale. Picture five years from now and ask the future version of yourself the following questions (use a pen and paper if you'd like):

• Was it worth the risk?

  • Sometimes the biggest risk is not taking a risk. 

• What did it cost you?

  • Remember that cost isn't just money. It's also the other "costs" involved: Your energy, time, effort, and some of the things you couldn't do in order to do this thing.

• What's the biggest regret you have?

  • Typically, you regret the things you didn't do. Not the chances you took.

• What was the biggest hurdle you overcame?

  • Some of the hurdles may have been fear or self-doubt.

What's different now when you reflect on that thing you want to do?

Just so you know. No one has it all figured out. No One.  Realize that you are never going to have everything figured out and that's okay. You have enough and know enough to take the first step to get started.  Really.

If you're ready to take your first step Contact me  You have all of the skills, strengths, and capabilities you need. Let’s work together and reconnect you with them!

Warmly,
Ann

Ready. Set. Go! Who you kidding…

Two steps forward...three steps back...

Holy moly!  Change is hard!

So you're trying something new, looking at building a skill, or seeking some sort of change? Bravo!

Today I want to give a shout-out to all of you doing the work. The stuff to show up better in this world, to address the things in and around you that you want to be different. This stuff is hard. Change, building competence and confidence, saying no to something so you can say yes to something else. All of it.

No matter what change or skill you're looking to make or build...I feel you.

There will never be a "perfect' path.

How about you stop, take a look back, and see far you've come? Impressive I bet. This is something you can sometimes forget to do, reflect on the small changes you've been making. There will never be a "perfect" path. Aim for progression, not perfection.

Recently I've been on my own journey of change and it's given me such an appreciation for all of you out there.

This change stuff is work. Until you do something enough times, your tendency to revert to old ways is going to be incredibly powerful.  It brings a feeling of safety and comfort even if it's no longer useful for you.

That's why when you're looking to do something different...understanding your default settings is useful.  This is your baseline, the default you are working from, and quite honestly, against. And, sadly, you will most likely return to it. Unless...you do the work.

Are you ready?

Let’s get to it…

Your challenge…

Your desire for change and growth is going to challenge your default behaviours. If you want to change them, here's some perspective for you:

Start by picking one particular thing you're working towards right now, it could be a skill you want to learn or something you want to start or stop doing.  As always, choose something small to practice with.

• Acknowledge:

  • Nothing changes until you know what it is that you want to change and why this change matters to you. Be specific.

• Make a plan:

  • Once you acknowledge the behaviour and why it's the default, you can create a plan to change it. The plan may include specific small steps you will take, as well as strategies for overcoming obstacles and setbacks.

• Practice:

  • Changing a default behaviour takes time and effort. There may be setbacks along the way...this is normal. Don't give up! Remember to celebrate your progress and successes, no matter how small they may seem.  

• Give yourself some grace:

"Two steps forward, one step back...
Remember...
Be kind.
Be Patient.
Be consistent."**

If you're ready to make a change Contact me  You have all of the skills, strengths, and capabilities you need. Let’s work together and reconnect you with them!

Warmly,
Ann

Did you miss my last blog? They're always available on my website www.steppingstonecoaching.ca

Contact me to start taking a step towards building your confidence.  You've got this.

**quote from my first book The Wisdom of the Sticky Note

Three steps forward…two steps back…Holy Moly, change is hard!

Ready to grow something? Be specific.

So you're ready to grow? Excellent!

In order to "grow",  you need to be clear on exactly what it is that you're going to grow. You wouldn't plant a tomato seed and expect a rose to grow, would you?

You also have to have just enough courage to get started and of course, take action.  

Ready?

Get Clear!

… would you call a taxi, jump in and say “don’t take me to the airport”?  Sounds ludicrous, doesn’t it? Yet knowing what you don’t want or want to avoid is often more clear than what you actually want…

It's not your fault. You can blame it on your brain's natural tendency to have a negative bias. In order to keep you safe, it's going to focus on what you want to avoid rather than what you want.  That brain of yours is so impractical at times! 

For example: When it comes to growing your confidence it might sound like this:

You don't want to look unprepared so you're attention is likely to be focused on your perceived weaknesses and what you don't know. Not very useful.

If you're focusing on "not looking unprepared" then you're walking into the situation, without any idea of how you actually want to show up, or what a successful outcome looks like. If you don’t know what your desired outcome is, how will you stand a chance of getting it?

The difference between people who tend to get what they want and everyone else? They don't leave things to chance. They get really clear on their intention for any situation and they prepare for it. 

Let's practice. Pick one of the following...making your coffee, tea, or smoothie. Or something you've done before. Keep it super simple.


Get Confident!

We're going to practice with something you already know how to do with confidence. Let's say you’ve decided what you want…the coffee, tea, or smoothie. Great! Now what?

It takes practice to grow your confidence.

The fact is, you already have all the skills, strengths, and capabilities you need to show up with confidence. Really! You’ve just lost touch with them. 

So how do you start to reconnect with them? We're going to practice with something you already know how to do with confidence. Start by thinking of that coffee/tea or smoothie that you've decided you want. 

For each step, pause, close your eyes and picture yourself doing it:

• Imagine you've already made that coffee, tea, or smoothie. Notice where you are when you're enjoying it. Imagine that first sip.

• Now, closing your eyes again, step back and picture the behaviours you did to prepare that drink.

• Ask yourself - what skills or capabilities did I use to make that beverage?

• What did you have to believe about yourself to make it happen? 

• Pick one word that would describe your identity as you did this thing.  Maybe finish the sentence "I am a person who..." (makes amazing coffee!)

This is a form of mental rehearsal...just like professional athletes do, and it's one of the most powerful tools for practicing and growing your confidence. If you’re able to imagine the situation you're heading into happening and walk through it, it feels like it’s already done. Your brain doesn’t know the difference! https://www.breakthroughbasketball.com/mental/visualization.html This is the key to start/continue growing your confidence. It's a practice.

Get Going!

Now that you’re really clear about what you want and how you want to show up, it’s time to take some action.

In your example? Maybe you're getting your favourite coffee beans ready to grind or putting on your kettle to brew some tea. Start there.

Remember that at one time, this wasn't something you did automatically. It took repetition. Doing. Confidence is like that too. Repetition. Doing things when you don't know every step.

Ready to try this on something new?

Let’s get to it…

Your challenge…

Now that you've practiced with something you're already confident in, it's time to use a new situation.  For learning purposes, keep it small. 

• You've got that thing picked...right!?

  • Be specific.

• Practice the mental rehearsal exercise above.

  • Take it one step at a time and really imagine each step happening.  

• Take a small, courageous step.

• Then repeat. Often.

  • Notice what changes. Because...change will happen.

By getting clear on what you want, doing the preparation, and taking action, you will grow your confidence. Simple? Yes. Easy? It’s a practice.

When you practice you’ll start to make shifts that grow your confidence and over time… it just may transform you and your life!

When you're ready to start growing your confidence Contact me  You have all of the skills, strengths, and capabilities you need. Let’s work together and reconnect you with them!

Warmly,
Ann

Ready to grow something? Be specific.

What's your default setting?

Time for a reboot?

You've probably purchased a computer or cell phone before.  You take it out of the box, put it together, and hit the "on" button. Tada! Ready to go. Or, is it?  Chances are, you went through all of the default settings and did a little assessment. Keep, discard, or upgrade.  You decided which factory settings were for you and which weren't and some things were unchangeable 'defaults', you had to accept them.

As much as possible, you customized for the experience YOU wanted to have. You made it your own.

You came into this world much the same way. Your natural "defaults' or 'factory settings'... were mostly set by your parents to start with and then, along the way, other influencers in your life. All well and good, right? If yes...read no further.  If not...

Think about some of the defaults, maybe these resonate: seeking to be in control; people-pleasing; being the caregiver; seeking approval - mostly ones that, although challenging, can be changed. Then there are the ones that are just a part of being human - like your negativity bias - a bit more tricky. Or, there is a myriad of other factory settings that you uniquely received. Mostly things that were essential to your initial survival. Things that probably made you feel safe because that's what you knew.

That was then. This is now.

The cool thing?  You have more control over all of those "default" settings than you might think.

Although you may not have selected them, that doesn't mean you can't change them. It's never too late, or too early for that matter, to reboot the system and assess.

What exactly might you want to upgrade if you're looking at building or reconnecting with your confidence?

Let’s get to it…

Your challenge…

Notice your default settings, and then decide which ones you want to keep, upgrade or reboot in service of building your confidence.

• Your brain has a natural negative bias:

  • You will tend to remember the things that went wrong more readily than those that went right...not great for building your confidence. Write down your achievements and strengths.

• Identify your limiting beliefs:

  • Truthfully, all beliefs are limiting...that's their job. Perhaps look for things you believe may be holding you back from feeling more confident. Maybe start with any negative self-talk and challenge yourself to find evidence to the contrary.

• Identify one particular source of your lack of confidence:

  • Take some time to reflect on what might be causing your lack of confidence. Is it a particular situation or relationship? Start with one specific thing. 

• Take action:

  • Noticing what is getting in the way of building your confidence and taking a small step to change situation by situation.  Maybe it's pausing before you listen to someone else's opinion or questioning that voice in your head to make sure it's yours...

Those default ways of thinking and behaving will take time to change. The good thing is, with consistent and persistent action, you can change your mindset and grow your confidence.


If you're ready to start growing your confidence Contact me  You have all of the skills, strengths, and capabilities you need. Let’s work together and reconnect you with them!

Warmly,

Ann

What’s your default setting?

Are you a people pleaser?

Who are you pleasing...your parents, partner, kids, friends, boss, anyone and everyone? Except you. What does this have to do with building your confidence? A whole s**t  ton, that's what.

This confidence thing has so many elements to it. Some, you may have all figured out, and then there are going to be others that sneak up on you and catch you off guard.

What happens when you’re continually pleasing others? How does this help you? How does it hurt you? There's going to be some fallout when you're constantly checking in with others and making others' needs come first. Know what eventually happens? Resentment, blame, and regret, are the things that can come up. When you realize that your habit of pleasing others has left your needs in the dirt.

What if your people-pleasing was just a habit? Something you do on autopilot. The good news here? Habits can be changed. The key is noticing the benefits of having this habit.  Any behaviour that you do on repeat gets you something...a benefit.

Ouch.

Let's say, for example, for you, it's pleasing your parents. What's the benefit? Maybe, that's always been your role "keep everybody happy". Keeping the peace by avoiding confrontation? How's that working for you? 

People pleasing can have a significant impact on your self-confidence.

It can lead to:

• Difficulty setting boundaries:

  • You may struggle to set healthy boundaries because you're prioritizing the needs of others over your own. This can erode self-confidence.

• Loss of self-esteem:

  • Constantly putting other people's needs and desires ahead of your own can leave you feeling like your own feelings and opinions are less important. Over time, this can cause you to lose confidence in your own abilities and judgement.

• Difficulty making decisions:

  • When you're always focused on pleasing others, it can be hard to make decisions that are in your own best interest. This can lead to indecisiveness and self-doubt, which can negatively impact your confidence.

• Lack of assertiveness:

  • People-pleasers may struggle to assert themselves or speak up for their own needs and desires. This can make it difficult to stand up for yourself, which can further chip away at your self-confidence.

What are you to do? How do you stop "people pleasing" and lean into your own needs?

Let’s get to it…

Your challenge…

Pick one particular situation where you know you're falling into the trap of people pleasing.  Take a breath and ask yourself the following (journaling is always a useful tool if you're into that):

• What is it about this particular situation that causes me to put my needs aside?

• What's the benefit for me when I do this?

• What's the cost to me when I do this?

• What would happen if I set a boundary here?

• What is one step I could take right now to start this process?

It starts by practicing focusing on your needs, and, if it's been a while, you may want to start with the questions above. Be gentle with yourself.  With time, you will start to notice that by paying attention to your behaviours and habits you will start to reconnect with your needs. Set some boundaries and remember...boundaries aren't there to keep others out...they're there to help you get your needs met. When your needs are met your confidence will grow.

If you're ready to start growing your confidence Contact me  You have all of the skills, strengths, and capabilities you need. Let’s work together and reconnect you with them!

Warmly,
Ann

Are you a people pleaser? Time to set some boundaries…

Buckle up...it's time for a hard turn...

*Warning contains explicit language

So you're growing your confidence, are you?  How's it going?  There are so many components to this thing called confidence.  From self-love, and self-care to managing self-doubt...it can be a lot.  
 
Here's the next one on the list, buckle up...this one's a big one...

 
Self-Acceptance or Self-Approval

Why does self-approval/acceptance matter so much?

Probably because others' approval can matter too much and that's NOT a good thing!  Depending on your lived experience, this may not resonate with you at all.  However, based on the multiple conversations I've had (mostly with women) and my own personal experience (of course!) this is well worth a read!

Self-approval. Sounds like a no-brainer doesn't it?  Why wouldn't you check in with yourself first to look for approval?  It's complicated...

Depending on how you were raised, with all of the other influences that come with that: cultural, maybe religious, your gender, etc. You may have gotten into the habit of putting what others think about you and the things you're doing ahead of what you think about them! And, you are 100% not alone on this one!

You might be interested to know how this is getting in the way of growing your confidence:

• It can prevent you from believing in yourself and your abilities. 

• You're less likely to set healthy boundaries.

• You're less likely to take risks or try new things because of the fear of failure.

• You tend to be harder on yourself and set unrealistic goals.

Does any one of these resonate for you?  Maybe more than one...

So what are you to do? How do you move forward from this? 
 

Let’s get to it…

Your challenge…
 

Check-in with yourself. Are you putting too much weight on what others think about you or the decisions you make, the opinions you have, etc.?

Here's some food for thought to consider the next time you're worried about what others think.  When you stop caring about what others think, here's what can happen:

• Reduces the need for external validation:

  • When you approve of yourself, you rely less on external validation to feel good about yourself.

• Encourages taking risks:

  • When you approve of yourself, you're more likely to take risks and try new things without fear of failure. 

• Improves decision-making:

  • When you approve of yourself, you trust your own judgment and are more confident in your decision-making abilities.

• Enhances assertiveness:

  • When you approve of yourself, you're more likely to assert yourself and speak up for what you believe in. This can help you own your abilities and strengths.

And probably the one that had the most impact on me personally.. in terms of self-approval...(WARNING...explicit language here)

"Once I got a handle on the difference between giving a fuck about something, and giving a fuck about what other people think about what I give a fuck about, it all started falling into place." - The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck - A No F*cks Given Calendar 2022

By practicing self-care, focusing on your strengths, challenging negative self-talk, and setting achievable goals, you can develop a stronger sense of self-approval and, ultimately, build your confidence.

If you're ready to start growing your confidence Contact me  You have all of the skills, strengths, and capabilities you need. Let’s work together and reconnect you with them!

Warmly,

Ann

Buckle up…it’s time for a hard turn!

Tick tock, tick tock...

Why are you putting that thing off?

The time is going to pass anyway…and, here’s the hard truth…you’re never going to feel ready.

Maybe you didn't say it, but...it's pretty common, you may be putting that thing off until you have it exactly figured out: you have the perfect website: the elegant elevator pitch; or whatever excuse you are holding on to.  Those things that you think will bring a sense of confidence so you can step into that thing you want to do.

Here's a little secret...confidence is an ongoing process.

There’s no wand to wave, no YouTube* or TikTok video to watch (although they may help for sure). It's a process. Once you gather the confidence for one thing, another thing comes along and you’re back at the start again. Except, you’re not. When you understand that it’s a process, you can move through it more quickly. It doesn’t mean that it will feel comfortable but it can feel familiar and your brain likes that.

Do you have a process for growing your confidence?  Whether you do or don't, here are some tips for you today...something I like to refer to as "The Confidence Recipe" and, like any recipe, there's room to add, remove or replace to make it suit your taste.

Let's start with the basics and you can take it from there:

Choosing Courage Over Fear.  Any change is scary. Even the changes for very good reasons.  Blame it on your brain and its desire to keep you alive above all other things.  It prefers the status quo...much easier to manage and not practical at all if you want to live a fulfilled life.

Your mindset. It affects everything. Everything. The way you think is habitual. Glass half-full, half-empty, or completely refillable?   It matters and it's possible to change it.

Trust yourself. You have so much wisdom available to you if you'd only stop and pay attention from time to time.  It's typical to default to the logic in your head but paying attention to the wisdom in your body is powerful. 

Practice, fail, learn, repeat....and perhaps the one that gets left out...Forgive. It's not going to be perfect and you have to start somewhere. 

Ready to give it a whirl?

Let’s get to it…

Your challenge…

Think about something that you've been wanting to get going on, doesn't matter how big or small it is.

• Step One.

  • Ask yourself, where's one small opportunity here to choose courage over fear? Simple? Yes. Easy? It's a practice. The practice starts with the smallest of steps.

• Step Two.

  • Checking in with your mindset. This can be a bit of a wake-up call if you've always approached things with the "what's going to go wrong" mindset. It's potentially retraining your brain after years of a negative default.  It IS possible. The first step here? Notice what your current mindset default is. 

• Step Three.

  • Trust Yourself. Get quiet. Listen to YOURSELF. Practice quietening those voices in that head of yours that are all too eager to tell you what you "should" do. You have everything you need in this moment. Just get started.

• Step Four.

  • Practice, fail, learn, repeat....and perhaps the one that gets left out...forgive. Anything that you're doing for the first few times may be a bit bumpy.  Don't let that stop you. Confidence grows with practice.

Check-in with yourself and that thing you want to do.  What's different now when you approach that thing with a process? 

You've got this.

If you're ready to start growing your confidence Contact me  You have all of the skills, strengths, and capabilities you need. Let’s work together and reconnect you with them!

Warmly,
Ann

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